An illustration that perfectly portrays the Christian ethic (red=good works/fruit of the Spirit):

"We love because he first loved us." (1 John 4: 19)

Notice where the individual's attention is focussed (i.e., not on the self). This is not one of those "in-order-to-love-another-person,-you-must-first-love-yourself" ideas! --JAZ

footnote: I use the word "perfectly" (above) somewhat liberally.